I first started Breakup Bootcamp in 2016. The idea came after going through a traumatic breakup. Here’s the background…
I was dating someone who I thought I’d spend the rest of my life with. I thought life was perfect. I had the job, the status, and the boyfriend. Living the dream, at that time, was being someone’s plus one, getting married and eventually being a stay-at-home-mom. It’s the only dream I ever knew. But one day, that dream fell apart.
The man I thought was going to be my happily ever after cheated on me, and when the relationship fell apart, I fell apart. I had also lost my job a few months prior, and moved out of my apartment to live with him. I felt like my entire world came crashing down and found myself jobless, boyfriend-less and without a place to call my home. I stopped eating, I spiraled into depression, I had suicidal thoughts. After I hit rock bottom, I realized that I had a choice to make. I could continue spiraling out of control, or I could muster any strength I had left in me to get back up. Fortunately, I chose the latter.
I committed myself to doing whatever it would take to heal. I tried everything – therapy, reiki, meditation, yoga retreats, you name it, I tried it. Eventually the steps added up and I started to feel like the dark haze was being lifted.
I immersed myself into learning everything I could about heartbreak. I researched, I wrote, I experimented on myself and sought the guidance of experts from the scientific to the metaphysical. I realized that during my heartbreak there was no one place where I could go to heal, and learn about myself and my patterns so that I wouldn’t repeat the same heartbreak all over again.
Throughout my journey I was blogging about my experience. After receiving countless emails from people feeling hopeless in heartbreak, I learned that there’s so many people struggling, and that it’s a very scary place to be when you feel like you have no hope. I was fortunate to have a support system and to learn the tools to heal, but what about the people who didn’t have such support?
I knew I had to be the one to create a safe space for people mourning heartbreak, and to leave different from how they came in. Alas, the idea for breakup bootcamp was born.
I’m now in my fifth year of business. I’ve helped countless people heal from their breakups, divorces and get out of toxic relationships. I’ve helped single people learn how to open their hearts up again and create healthy love. I’ve now written a book on it, and apparently, there’s a new Hallmark movie that stars Ran Paevey and Italia Ricci called Don’t Go Breaking My Heart that was originally titled Breakup Bootcamp (the title of my retreats and my book that was published by Harper Collins.)
I haven’t watched the movie, but I can tell you that my bootcamp focuses on the science and spiritual aspects of healing the heart. We bring in a team of experts ranging from psychologists, behavioral scientists, sex educators, breathwork instructors and more. We have a tried-and-tested program that teaches you the tools to recalibrate, let go of your ex, find your own closure and forgiveness, and ultimately move forward.
The next bootcamp date will be announced soon. You can sign up for the upcoming workshop I’ll be leading on how to create healthy relationship patterns here.