It’s that time of year again – the holiday season. For those of us who are single, it can be a tough time. Everywhere we look, it seems like everyone is coupled up and celebrating with their significant other. Here are some tips to make it through the holidays with your sanity (and your self-esteem) intact.

Don’t FOMO scroll

If social media is making you feel worse, try uninstalling the apps for a while. Seeing everyone’s highlight reels of their festive celebrations can be tough, especially if you’re feeling lonely. Catch yourself when you’re about to FOMO scroll and ask yourself, “Is this being kind to myself?” Taking a break from social media can be an act of self-care.

Is it normal to miss your ex during the holidays?

Because of the heightened emotion and societal pressure that comes along with the holidays, you may find yourself missing your ex more than usual. Know that feeling more lonely, ruminating a bit more during the holidays is normal – and it’s not a signal for you to get back with your ex. Remember, missing someone or feeling lonely is not a good enough reason to get back with an ex.

Text an Ex?

When it comes to texting your ex during the holidays, it’s important to consider your intentions. If you’re still friends with your ex and want to send them a holiday greeting, go ahead. But if you just broke up, or haven’t spoken to them since the breakup, it’s best to stay away. Ask yourself if you’re trying to get a response or validation.  If you think you’ll feel hurt if they don’t reply to your message, it’s probably not a good idea to send it. 

Give the very thing you want

Want love? Give love. Research shows that one of the best ways to beat the blues is to give generously. Volunteering your time helps you shift the focus away from yourself to something bigger than yourself. Helping others gives you the feel good chemicals you need, which ultimately is the best gift you can give yourself.

Remember, the holiday season is just a small part of the year. You don’t have to have a partner to create a happy, fulfilling life. Focus on the people and things that bring you joy.