You may not be able to change the events of your history, but you can choose to change the story you attach to those events.
Tag: <span>love yourself</span>
It’s never just about the ex. It’s recycled pain. We recreate the emotional experience of how were wounded as children. If we don’t figure out what the subconscious wounds, patterns and beliefs are, we will just keep repeating the same emotional experience, just with different people.
The majority of people we date will not be our destination. They were meant to be bridges. Each time we cross a bridge, we have a chance to become a stronger, wiser version of ourselves.
Too often we think of loving ourselves as a final destination, as if you flip a switch and suddenly you’re transported to some magical island of enlightenment and relationship bliss. The alternative is feeling ashamed—as if you’re not strong enough, or working hard enough, to get there. This mentality does more damage than it does good.