ABOUT AMY CHAN
I’m the Founder and Chief Heart Hacker of Renew Breakup Bootcamp. I started this company because after going through a traumatizing breakup, I struggled to find a program that was specific to the type of pain I was going through. I didn’t want to just heal from my breakup, I wanted to break the patterns that were not serving me. There was nobody offering such a service, and so through the collaboration of various doctors, psychologists, coaches and healing practitioners, Renew Breakup Bootcamp was born.
I’ve been writing about relationships, dating and love for over a decade. I’m the Editor-in-Chief of Heart Hackers Club – an online magazine that focuses on the psychology behind love, lust and desire. The Observer calls me “A relationship expert whose work is like that of a scientific Carrie Bradshaw” and I’ve been featured across national media including Good Morning America, Vogue, Glamour, Nightline and the front page of The New York Times. My book, Breakup Bootcamp – The Science of Rewiring Your Heart, published by Harper Collins is available at all bookstores and has been translated in five languages. I am represented by one of the world’s top talent agencies, United Talent Agency.
Prior to starting Renew, I was the Chief Marketing Officer of the national ping pong clubs, SPiN. I spent a lot of my marketing career building lifestyle and luxury travel brands.
Why I started the world’s first Breakup Bootcamp
Ten years ago, I was in a relationship with a man whom I thought I’d be spending the rest of my life with. He was my first love, and without realizing it, I had put much of my sense of identity into that relationship. When one day suddenly everything fell apart, I broke into pieces. Not only did I lose my partner, my best friend, but I lost my identity. I spiraled into a depression, broke out into panic attacks, and had thoughts of suicide.
During that time, I searched everywhere for a retreat or some safe place where I could go to get the healing that I needed. Unfortunately, there was nothing targeted specifically to the type of excruciating pain that comes along with separation. It took me almost two years to fully recover from that breakup and along the way, I learned critical tools for self-soothing and getting oneself back into equilibrium. I also count my blessings that I had such a great support system that helped me through the worst of the darkness.
The business idea for Renew came to me about a few years ago. I realized that most of the emails I get from readers of my blog were from people going through breakups and completely distraught on how to handle the pain. It was an AHA moment where everything came together, and I knew that I had to be the one to create a safe space for people to come and heal in a healthy way.
If you are going through a heartbreak, I promise you that there is light at the end of the tunnel. There are tools you can learn to process the pain of the past and move forward stronger and more empowered than ever before. This is an opportunity for you to learn about yourself, and change the direction of your life. The breakup may feel like the worst thing that’s ever happened to you, but it’s merely a bridge. This is one chapter in the overall storyline of your life. When your emotions take over and you feel like you’re going crazy, know that the feeling is temporary – it will pass. Know that you’re not alone. There are others who are also going through the same pain you are, and my goal is to create a community where we can support each other.