FOUNDER AND CHIEF HEART HACKER OF RENEW BREAKUP BOOTCAMP
I started Renew Breakup Bootcamp because, after suffering a traumatizing breakup, I knew things had to change. I wanted more than to heal from one painful event, though – it was time to break the patterns that had landed me there once and for all.
Sadly, a holistic approach to this kind of healing didn’t exist despite how common my problems were. I thought about all the folks feeling this same kind of pain, and felt called to find a solution.
So – through endless collaboration with doctors, psychologists, coaches and healing practitioners, Renew Breakup Bootcamp was born.
Fast forward to today, and I’ve been writing about relationships, dating and love for over a decade as the Editor-in-Chief of Heart Hackers Club – an online magazine that focuses on the psychology behind love, lust and desire.
Throughout my career in heart repair, I’ve been featured by a wide array of media outlets including Good Morning America, Vogue, Glamour, Nightline, The Observer and even on the front page of The New York Times. Turns out self love and empowerment are in style these days!
My book, Breakup Bootcamp – The Science of Rewiring Your Heart, published by Harper Collins, is available at all bookstores and has been translated into five languages to empower folks around the globe.
Looking back on my journey from heartbreak to heart healer, and all the beautiful people I’ve encountered along the way, I couldn’t be happier with how far we’ve all come today.
IT STARTED FROM ROCK BOTTOM – A PIVOTAL HEARTBREAK
Ten years ago, I was with a man who I painted as my forever partner. He was my first love, and without realizing it, my sense of self became rooted in that relationship, a common trap none of us are immune to.
Ultimately, that romance imploded – and so did I. Not only did I lose my partner and best friend, I lost myself. I spiraled into depression, broke out into panic attacks, and struggled with suicidal thoughts.
During that time, I searched everywhere for a retreat or any kind of safe space where I could go to get the healing that I needed. Unfortunately, there was nothing designed specifically for the excruciating pain that comes along with separation, so I had to find my own path.
It took me almost two years to fully recover from that breakup and along the way, I learned critical tools for self-soothing and returning to equilibrium. I couldn’t have done this without the help of an amazing support system and teachers that served as my light in the worst of the darkness.
Remembering my struggle, and the sense of community and support that helped save me, I had the business idea for Renew. I realized that most of the emails I received from readers of my blog were from people going through breakups and completely overwhelmed by the scale of their pain. I had an “aha” moment, and everything came together.
I was suddenly compelled to pay it forward – and create a safe space for those who, like me, were ready to heal in a healthy way.
If you are going through a heartbreak, I promise you that there is light at the end of the tunnel. There are tools you can learn to process the pain and move forward stronger than ever before. You can find empowerment, truly know yourself, and change the direction of your life for good.
While this pain may feel like the worst you’ve ever felt, trust me when I say this isn’t a dead end. It’s a bridge. This is just one chapter in the story of your life. When your emotions take over and you feel like you’re going crazy, know that the feeling is temporary and that it will pass.
Know, above all things, that you’re not alone.
There are people out there just like you, wounded by heartache – but brave enough to bet on a bigger, brighter, happier future.
This is the place where we all can gather.