Renew Breakup Bootcamp

Turn heartbreak into healing.

An Expert-Facilitated In-Person Retreat for Total Breakup Recovery

Going through a breakup? Anxious in love? Sick of being single? At the Renew Breakup Bootcamp, you’ll learn how to transform heartbreak into healing and shift subconscious patterns once and for all.

Whether you’re divorced or dating, single or separated, this is a program for anyone serious about creating change and healthy, lasting love.

We’ve helped hundreds of people get over heartbreak and start their next chapter, renewed. Our next bootcamp will take place Friday, Nov. 12 at 3:00 PM  and ends on Monday, Nov. 15 at 1:00PM.

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This one-of-a-kind event is designed to empower attendees to transform heartbreak into healing and begin their next chapter, renewed.

At Renew Breakup Bootcamp, you’ll experience four transformational days that will help you heal from the past and move forward to create healthy love.

You’ll learn tried-and-tested tools taught by Amy and the world’s top relationship experts – from psychologists, relationship coaches, sex educators and more.

The retreat includes lodging in a luxury estate surrounded by 100 acres of nature, nutritious meals cooked by a private chef, and over 8 hours of facilitator led programming per day. The retreat begins on Friday, Nov. 12 at 3:00 PM  and ends on Monday, Nov. 15 at 1:00PM. You are responsible for getting yourself to the property located in Wawarsing, Upstate New York.

Rewire the subconscious patterns that have been holding you back.


  • Chief Heart Hacker Amy Chan will deep dive into the psychology of attachment, and provide practical tools to love and relate in a healthy way
  • Dr. Jordana Jacobs, Ph.D. will help you shift your subconscious beliefs and patterns
  • Dr. Cat Meyer, Psy. D. will guide you through somatic healing exercises and help you align your conscious and subconscious mind
  • Colette Pervette, Ph.D. will teach you about the psychology of power dynamics so you relate from a place of empowerment and free of shame.
  • Anxiety Coach Trish Barillas will teach you tried and tested tools to hack your angst and calm your nerves
  • Sadia Bruce, E-RYT 500, YACEP will guide a therapeutic movement class to help you move through emotion
  • Nutritionist Erika Laurion will create healthy meals to nourish the body and delight your senses

“A getaway for those of us who just can’t get over it.”

“A retreat for anyone getting over a breakup.”

“They say boot camp, we say luxe weekend retreat.”

OUR EXPERT Facilitators

Amy Chan

Chief Heart Hacker

Amy is the Founder of Renew. A relationship columnist for over a decade, she is also the Editor-in-Chief of Heart Hackers Club – an online magazine that focuses on the psychology behind love and desire. Marie Claire calls her  “A relationship expert whose work is like that of a scientific Carrie Bradshaw”. She’s the author of the New York Times featured book, Breakup Bootcamp – The Science to Rewiring Your Heart, published by Harper Collins.

Dr. Cat Meyer, Psy. D

Dr. Cat Meyer, Psy. D


Dr. Cat Meyer, PsyD, LMFT is a licensed couples therapist, sex therapist, yoga instructor, reiki practitioner, published researcher, and speaker dedicated to evolving the relationship we have surrounding sexuality and our bodies. Dr. Cat integrates various schools of thought including neuro​science, somatic theory, psychology, EMDR trauma therapy, and sexual health in her work designed to help people create a deeply fulfilling, prosperous relational and sexual life.

Dr. Jordana Jacobs

Dr. Jordana Jacobs, PH. D


Dr. Jordana Jacobs is a clinical psychologist in private practice in New York City. Her approach is integrative, combining psychodynamic and existential therapy into her treatment of patients. Dr. Jacobs’ training at Memorial Sloan Kettering working with terminally ill cancer patients, her studies in Northern India, and her Vipassana meditation practice inspired her research on the complex relationship between death awareness and love.

Colette Pervette, PH.D


Colette is an educatrix. She is a professional dominatrix, where she has been practicing the art of intimacy and power exchange for over 13 years. She holds a PhD in education from UC Berkeley, where her research focuses on conceptual change. Colette will guide a session on unlocking the application of power dynamics. And she will teach you how to ‘channel your inner Domme‘ so you can live, love and connect from a place of power.

Trish Barillas

Anxiety Coach

Trish has been a life coach for over a decade and a facilitator of positive change specializing in anxiety and breakups. She graduated from Hofstra University with a B.A. in Psychology and received her Life Coaching Master’s Certification at NYU. She is also the author of A Face of Anxiety – an autobiography of her journey living with anxiety disorder.


Carolyn S.

Intuitive Guide

Carolyn is a Spiritual Mediator and Intuitive Counsellor who has been practicing divine mediumship for 35 years. She was ordained as a metaphysical minister in 2014 with United Metaphysical Churches. She will be offering private, one-on-one sessions to provide insights that encompass the past, present and future.

Erika Laurion

Erika Laurion

Private Chef & Nutritionist

The head chef and nutritionist at Renew, Erika and her team will be cooking all meals at the retreat. Erika received her Masters from the Institute of Human Nutrition at the College of Physicians and Surgeons of Columbia University. She is certified by the Board for Nutrition Specialists and licensed by the New York State Education Department.

Sadia Bruce


Therapeutic Movement Specialist

Sadia, E-RYT 500, YACEP, is a therapeutic movement specialist and yoga teacher with over 20 years of experience. Her yoga training is complemented by certifications in functional fitness, somatics, contemplative studies and trauma-informed teaching.


Ready for Change? Act Now.

Our physical retreats have been on hold for over a year as a result of the pandemic, so we’ve already received hundreds of inquiries from people wanting to secure their place.

We only have 25 spots and expect them to sell out fast.

To ensure that the most committed people go through the application process efficiently, the next step is to schedule a call with the Renew team. There is a $10, non-refundable fee.

The retreat investment begins at $2495 and includes 3 nights lodging at a luxury estate in Upstate New York, meals cooked by a private chef, and all programming. Spots will be filled on a first-come, first-served basis — so be sure to apply as soon as you can.


“If you’ve lost your “other half,” Renew is the place to go. But I learned quickly there that I’m a completely whole person all on my own. This bootcamp taught me how to access my inner strength in order to repair the most important relationship of all: the relationship I have to myself. The takeaways from Renew are life changing, and the experience is one that I’ll never forget.”  
“After being divorced for 14 years, I wasn’t sure how Renew Breakup Bootcamp would help me at this point since it was not a resent breakup. I have peace in my heart, joy for myself, and I’m able to look back on my 20+ year marriage without the pain and hurt I felt before attending the Bootcamp. I can’t express the contentment I feel by not having those feelings weighing down on me.”
“This Retreat helped me commit to myself again. I had so much learning to do about myself after 10 years of partnership ended. Even after much personal processing, therapy and groups, this retreat helped me re-learn that, though not instantaneous, change is possible and tangible. I can commit to myself and practice authenticity, connection, gratitude and personal awareness and feel it become more of who I am on a daily basis.”
“I gained both hands-on tools for connection to self and others in an intellectual understanding of some of the big whys behind my relationship patterns, my self concept and lingering attachment to my ex… Not to mention an entourage of support after the retreat ends. Amy Chan’s method in overcoming the cycle of unhealthy relationship patterns encourages awareness, promotes the manifestation of self love and resets attendees ability to increase an abundance of happiness.”  


I’m still in a relationship, will I benefit from coming?

You absolutely can. In fact, approximately 30% of the participants who come to Renew are in on-again, off-again relationships. Many of these women are stuck in the gray zone, struggling with self-doubt, anxiety about the future, and fear of making the wrong decision.

If you’ve arrived on this page, there’s a good chance you’re feeling the exact same way.

Renew helps these women reconnect to their intuition, providing the skills and strength they need to heal — or, in many cases, leave their unhealthy relationship. Some have even taken breaks, rewritten their stories, and returned to their relationships equipped with the empowerment and sense of self they need to forge a totally new experience with their partner. 

The retreat is not about the person you are dating or your ex. It’s about YOU. The common denominator in your experiences is you – and our team helps you discover the wounds, subconscious patterns and limiting beliefs that stop you from creating the life and love you truly desire.

Am I too old or too young to come?

23? 72? No sweat. We’ve seen it all before – and your age doesn’t matter. Your desire to create change for yourself does.

We’ve built a community that attracts women from all places, all age groups, and all walks of life, and they all have one thing in common – they believe in a better future. 

A breakup is often a great catalyst for change and causes people to re-evaluate what’s working and what’s not. Once you’ve decided you want to move forward, the team at Renew can provide the tools and guidance you need to make that happen.

Don’t ask if you’re too young or too old, ask yourself if you’re tired of living in a cycle of hurt and want to create positive change in your life. That’s all you really need to know.

Will I be healed after one weekend?

Anything that promises to be a quick fix to transformation or enlightenment is a lie. 

Renew’s team of facilitators are the best of the best in their areas of expertise and as such will never offer you magic-wand or snake-oil solutions. 

Instead, we will guide you through a process of healing, providing effective tools rooted in science, psychology and spirituality. With these tools, you will begin to emotionally regulate, reframe and rewire – but that’s a lifelong journey. 

Our intention is to enable you to experience an adventure of self-discovery in a safe and nurturing environment, and set you on a path of perpetual growth and empowerment that will change your life for good.

Do I need to attend each day of the bootcamp?

In order to attend the Renew Breakup Bootcamp, you must be able to commit to attending all days and all sessions. It’s important to experience the program in its entirety for maximum impact, and to create a sense of accountability within our groups.

When/where is the next bootcamp?

Our next bootcamp will take place November 12th through 15th in Upstate New York. Please checkout our bootcamp page for more details or to book your ticket.

Is there support after the retreat?

After the retreat, you will have access to a private Facebook group for the Renew community and a Whatsapp group made specifically for the women who attend your retreat. 

Many attendees also choose to continue with group mentorship or private sessions.

I go to therapy already. Should I bother coming to Renew?

You will find that Renew is impactful because you are completely immersed in a variety of healing modalities. This is very different from talking to a therapist on a weekly, bi-weekly, or once-in-a-while basis.

That said, Renew is not a replacement for therapy, training, or prescribed medication. It should instead be seen as complementary to systems you already have in place.

Do you offer financial assistance?

If you would like to take advantage of our services, but are struggling financially, please contact us. We will do what we can to help.

Do you offer a retreat for men?

Right now, our in-person retreat is for women only. That said, a co-ed, virtual bootcamp is currently under development.

Does my sexual orientation matter?

We welcome women of any sexual orientation.

Is the bootcamp private?

Everyone who comes to Renew must sign a privacy agreement prior to arrival. Participants are not allowed to record any of the sessions or disclose any private details shared during the process.

Can I send a friend?

Many people have gifted the Renew retreat to a friend or family member. Each participant must go through the application process which requires a call with a member of the Renew team.

Are there private sessions?

Private sessions are available at an additional cost.

I’m feeling scared about attending. Is this normal?

For many, the most difficult part of a breakup is not the end of a relationship, but the end of a longstanding pattern. The biggest decision you will make is the commitment to change – and it’s completely normal for you to feel fear about that. 

Human beings like what is familiar – even if familiar hurts. The unknown can feel so overwhelming or scary that it can keep us stuck in places that don’t serve us. Know that this is a mental trap, and that growth occurs outside of your comfort zone. 

If you’re not getting the results you want with your current approach, then it’s time to try something new. 

It’s okay to feel fear, but that fear doesn’t own you. You get to choose.

What is the application process?

To apply for the Renew Breakup Bootcamp in-person retreat, please set up a call with our team. 

This application process comes with a one-time, non-refundable $10 fee, and is designed to ensure that the folks who attend our retreat are invested, committed and can work well within a group dynamic.

This is a big step and a big process. It’s important we focus on those who are ready for it.