Breakup Bootcamp Podcast
A 7-part series that delves into each stage of healing post-breakup: shock, denial, depression, anger, bargaining, accountability, and acceptance.
the latest research on heartbreak recovery
Breakup Bootcamp is a 7-part series that delves into each stage of healing post-breakup: shock, denial, depression, anger, bargaining, accountability, and acceptance.
The series also features live coaching sessions between Chan and guests navigating breakups. Notable guests include celebrities such as Millionaire Matchmaker Patti Stanger, bestselling author Tara Schuster (author of “Buy Yourself the F*cking Lilies”), and top-charting entertainment news podcaster Shannon McNamara from FluentlyForward, among others.
Dubbed “the Chief Heart Hacker,” Amy Chan grounds her practical advice and tried and tested methods rooted in cutting-edge psychology and research, helping first her bootcamp attendees and now podcast listeners most effectively heal and reclaim their self-love.
Episode 1: The Breakup Basics and Stage 1 – Shock
In this episode you’ll learn about the different stages of healing from a breakup – starting with shock. You’ll learn what happens to your brain and body that causes that out of control feeling after heartbreak. By the end, you’ll have actionable steps to help you survive the primal panic that occurs immediately after a split.
Episode 2: Stage 2 – Denial, – Getting Unstuck from Denial
In this episode you’ll uncover the bias that makes you conveniently forget the negative aspects of your ex, plus how to knock them off the pedestal. Learn valuable insights on how to close mental loops, manage withdrawal, and boost dopamine in a healthy way. Amy will also live coach Millionaire Matchmaker, Patti Stanger as she heals from a breakup with her recent ex.
Episode 3: Stage 3 – All the Feels and Situational Depression
In this episode, we delve deep into the complex world of cognitive distortions and the challenge of separating fact from fiction in our emotional lives. Discover the transformative power of a 2-minute exercise to rewire your brain, and understand why concepts like “closure” might be myths that keep us tethered to dead-end relationships. Finally, get acquainted with the region-beta paradox, a dangerous relationship quandary where it feels too bad to stay, yet not quite bad enough to leave.
Episode 4: Stage 4 – Beyond Rage
In this episode, we’ll explore the dynamics of anger as a moving energy and why it’s crucial to understand and release it properly. Dive into the emotional aftermath of feeling like “it’s not fair” and discover how vilifying your ex can paradoxically keep you more attached. Learn the importance of recognizing red flags and establishing non-negotiables in relationships, and the transformative power of surrounding yourself with high safety individuals – because sometimes, it truly takes a village
Episode 5: Stage 5 – Bargaining
In this episode, learn how unique attachment styles shape the way individuals process breakups. Understand why relapse happens and what to do when it does. The episode also addresses the challenging decision of whether or not to reunite with an ex, and how to handle the feelings of injustice when an ex moves on.
Episode 6: Stage 6 – Accountability
In this episode, we delve into essential topics such as understanding emotional addiction and the yearning for homeostasis, challenging the concept of a ‘soul mate’ to foster personal growth, narcissistic tendencies, crafting a powerful ‘Letting Go’ letter as an act of liberation, and the transformative power of forgiveness in the process of healing. This episode offers a comprehensive guide to navigate the path towards self-accountability and emotional recovery post-breakup.
Episode 7: Stage 7 – Acceptance
In this episode we explore the intricacies of building fulfilling long-term partnerships. We delve into what truly matters in lasting relationship while learning the art of making better choices in partners, guided by the 4 pillars of partnership. Discover the balance in giving and receiving, while also gaining insights into how to prevent overcompensating for someone’s lack of effort. Finally, the episode touches on the journey of opening up your heart again, offering invaluable wisdom for those seeking genuine and enduring connections in the realm of love.