How to Heal from a Breakup: All the Feels and Situational Depression

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Research has shown that a breakup can trigger symptoms similar to clinical depression, as the end of a relationship leads to a decrease in certain hormones associated with love and attachment.

Good News: Healing and Resilience:

Despite the pain and despair, there is good news. This chemical imbalance doesn’t last forever. Studies in positive psychology have found that many people recover from intense heartbreak symptoms in about three months, with 71% of participants viewing their failed relationship in a positive light after approximately 11 to 12 weeks. 

Tools to Navigate the Depression Stage:

  1. Catch the Thinking Traps: Cognitive distortions, such as catastrophizing and all-or-nothing thinking, can exacerbate depressive feelings. Combat these tendencies by practicing opposite action. Change your body language, listen to uplifting music, and challenge irrational thoughts to avoid deepening your emotional state.
  2. Gratitude Journaling and Mindfulness Meditation: Practicing gratitude journaling has been shown to upregulate dopamine production, fostering feelings of reward and pleasure. By writing down three things you’re grateful for daily, you can positively influence your brain and gradually shift your perspective. 

Allow yourself to feel the pain and sadness, but also embrace the tools and practices that will lead you toward healing and personal growth. 

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