GET OVER YOUR EX AND CREATE HEALTHY LOVE
Transform heartbreak into healing. Shift old patterns now. Make space for new love.
NEXT BOOTCAMP: 2026 Dates TBC
Over four powerful days, you’ll be guided through a step-by-step, science-backed process designed to help you heal from heartbreak, and rewire unhelpful patterns.
This isn’t just about getting over someone. It’s about reclaiming your power, transforming pain into insight, and creating space for the love and life you deserve.
All you need to do is show up – all food, lodging and programming is included. We’ve hosted bootcamps for the last eight years, and have a tried-and-tested system that works. Taking that first leap of faith is often the hardest part.
AN EXPERT-FACILITATED IN-PERSON RETREAT FOR TOTAL BREAKUP RECOVERY
Going through a breakup? Anxious in love? Sick of being single? At the Renew Breakup Bootcamp, you’ll learn how to transform heartbreak into healing and shift subconscious patterns once and for all.
Whether you’re divorced or dating, single or separated, this is a program for anyone serious about creating change and healthy, lasting love.
We’ve helped hundreds of people get over heartbreak and start their next chapter, renewed. Our bootcamps are co-ed, we welcome people of any gender identity.
Start your healing journey, explore the Breakup Bootcamp book and pre-order Amy’s new book, UnSingle.
Renew Breakup Bootcamp Starts In:
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This one-of-a-kind event is designed to empower attendees to transform heartbreak into healing and begin their next chapter, renewed.
At Renew Breakup Bootcamp, you’ll experience four transformational days that will help you heal from the past and move forward to create healthy love.
You’ll learn tried-and-tested tools taught by Amy and the world’s top relationship experts – from psychologists, relationship coaches, sex educators and more.
The retreat includes lodging in a luxury estate surrounded by nature, nutritious meals cooked by a private chef, and over 8 hours of facilitator-led programming per day.
Rewire the subconscious patterns that have been holding you back.
WHAT TOPICS DO WE COVER?
- Founder and Chief Heart Hacker Amy Chan will be leading most sessions, guiding you through a proven, step-by-step system designed to help you heal from heartbreak—and most importantly, create space for healthy, lasting love.
- Disrupt the biochemical loops behind obsession and withdrawal, and break free from the push-pull dynamic that keeps you stuck chasing connection.
- Shift subconscious beliefs that silently sabotage your relationships.
- Understand the psychology of power dynamics so you can connect from a place of confidence and self-respect.
- Interrupt painful patterns—like chasing emotional unavailability or abandoning yourself for love.
- Repattern attachment wounds and start building relationships from a place of secure connection.
- Walk away with a renewed sense of self-worth—and a clear, hopeful path toward the kind of love you truly deserve.
TESTIMONIALS
From Heartbreak to Healing
Insights and reflections from past participants who turned heartbreak into healing.
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Case study: cece heals after a 3 year situationship
You may not be able to change the events of your history, but you can choose to change the story you attach to those events.
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Interview: It’s Never Just About The Ex
It’s never just about the ex. It’s recycled pain. We recreate the emotional experience of how were wounded as children. If we don’t figure out what the subconscious wounds, patterns and beliefs are, we will just keep repeating the same emotional experience, just with different people.
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Case Study: Caitlin sets a new Standard For Love
The majority of people we date will not be our destination. They were meant to be bridges. Each time we cross a bridge, we have a chance to become a stronger, wiser version of ourselves.
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Interview: What the Red Flags Tell You
Red flags are red flags, regardless of when they show up. Something that would have turned you away initially from a relationship shouldn’t be the thing you ignore just to stay in it.
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Heartbreak was the Catalyst for Self Discovery
Read the Interview with Renew Guest, Mercedes Mercedes is a millennial woman living in San Francisco who attended Renew’s wellness retreat in December 2017 in Malibu. A combination of serendipitous signs led her to attend the retreat, and today she shares her journey about how heartbreak enabled her to realize, create and embrace her own
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Case study: Puneet Healed From Heartbreak & Is now married
We interview Puneet Grewal about the lessons learned from heartbreak, the perspective shifts from her experience at the Renew wellness retreat and how life and love has changed since.
Facilitators of the 2025 BreakUP Bootcamp
Amy Chan
Chief Heart Hacker
Amy Chan has been a trusted voice in modern relationships for nearly two decades, beginning as a dating columnist and evolving into one of today’s most influential experts. In 2016, she launched Renew Breakup Bootcamp, the world’s first science-based retreat to help people heal from heartbreak. She has taught at Columbia University, and is a faculty member at the Esalen Institute, and The Omega Institute.
Dubbed “a scientific Carrie Bradshaw” by The Observer, Amy is the author of the best-selling book Breakup Bootcamp: The Science of Rewiring Your Heart, which was featured in The New York Times and an instant best-seller.
Dr. Cat Meyer
Psychotherapist
Dr. Cat Meyer, PSyD, LMFT, is a licensed marriage and family therapist and certified sex therapist who specializes in trauma-informed somatic therapy. With over a decade of clinical experience, Dr. Meyer helps people process unresolved trauma and reestablish a sense of safety and connection within themselves and their relationships. Her work integrates psychotherapy with somatic practices to support nervous system regulation, repair attachment wounds, and build resilience.
At Breakup Bootcamp, Dr. Cat leads trauma-informed somatic sessions that support participants in moving through emotional pain, reconnecting with their bodies, and cultivating resilience for the next chapter of their lives.
Trish Barillas
Life Coach
Trish Barillas is a seasoned Life Coach with over 20 years of experience helping individuals overcome anxiety, heal from breakups, and advance in their careers. She is the author of the book A Face of Anxiety which chronicles her personal journey living with generalized anxiety disorder (GAD) and panic disorder.
Known as a Creator of Positive Change, Trish brings passion, compassion, and practical tools to empower others to transform their lives and thrive.
Eileen Moran
Holistic Health Practitioner
Eileen Moran is a multidisciplinary holistic health practitioner certified in Integrative Sound & Music, Reiki, Meditation, Nutrition and Herbal Medicine. She travels the world facilitating transformational experiences for her clients, teaching them to tune in and liberate themselves from what blocks them, anything that’s in the way of them living at their highest vibration.
She has led immersive programs for Carnegie Hall, Financial Times, Omega Institute, The Standard Hotel, HealHaus, and Zaha Hadid’s One Thousand Museum, and formerly served as Director of Programs at You Can Thrive!, supporting individuals through holistic cancer care.
Karine Plantadit
Embodiment Guide
Karine Plantadit — Founder of SHĀ
Tony Award–nominated artist, former Principal Dancer with The Alvin Ailey American Dance Theater, and Experienced Registered Yoga Teacher (Yoga Alliance E-RYT®️), Karine Plantadit is the creator of SHĀ — a yoga-dance fusion where movement becomes medicine.
With clients including Hamilton, The Lion King, Juilliard, and The Alvin Ailey American Dance Theater, Karine guides people to reconnect to the body as the deepest source of truth and renewal.
READY FOR CHANGE?
We have limited spots and we always sell out.
We receive a high volume of interest for each retreat, but only a limited number of participants are accepted. To attend, please fill out the form below. We’ll review your application and invite those who are the best fit to move forward to the next step—a call with Renew Breakup Bootcamp Founder, Amy Chan.
The retreat investment ranges and includes 3 nights of lodging, all meals and programming. Spots will be filled on a first-come, first-served basis — so be sure to apply as soon as you can.
In The Media
A Retreat for Those Healing From Breakup or Divorce
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FAQ
I’m still in a relationship, will I benefit from coming?
Approximately 30% of the participants who come to Renew are in an on-again, off-again relationship. They are in the gray zone of indecision which causes much self-doubt, anxiety about the future and fear of making the wrong decision. These women have found that Renew helped provide the strength and tools to leave an unhealthy relationship and there have been some cases where women have later on reunited with their partner, but from an empowered, grounded place and thus the connection was a completely different experience. The retreat is not about the person you are dating or your ex – it’s about YOU. The common denominator in your experiences is you – and our team helps you discover the wounds, subconscious patterns and limiting beliefs that are holding you back from creating the life and love you need and desire.
Am I too old or too young to come?
23? 72? No sweat. We’ve seen it all before – and your age doesn’t matter. Your desire to create change for yourself does.
We’ve built a community that attracts women from all places, all age groups, and all walks of life, and they all have one thing in common – they believe in a better future.
A breakup is often a great catalyst for change and causes people to re-evaluate what’s working and what’s not. Once you’ve decided you want to move forward, the team at Renew can provide the tools and guidance you need to make that happen.
Don’t ask if you’re too young or too old, ask yourself if you’re tired of living in a cycle of hurt and want to create positive change in your life. That’s all you really need to know.
Will I be healed after one weekend?
Anything that promises to be a quick fix to transformation or enlightenment is a lie.
Renew’s team of facilitators are the best of the best in their areas of expertise and as such will never offer you magic-wand or snake-oil solutions.
Instead, we will guide you through a process of healing, providing effective tools rooted in science, psychology and spirituality. With these tools, you will begin to emotionally regulate, reframe and rewire – but that’s a lifelong journey.
Our intention is to enable you to experience an adventure of self-discovery in a safe and nurturing environment, and set you on a path of perpetual growth and empowerment that will change your life for good.
Do I need to attend each day of the bootcamp?
In order to attend Renew Breakup Bootcamp (physical or virtual retreats), you must be able to commit to attending all three days and all sessions. We do not record sessions and it’s important to experience the program in its entirety for maximum impact, and to be accountable to the group.
When/where is the next bootcamp?
The next Renew Breakup Bootcamp retreat is planned for 2026. Dates and venue will be announced soon. Our retreats are co-ed and welcome participants of any gender identity. Join our waitlist to be notified as soon as registration opens.
Is there support after the retreat?
After the retreat, you’ll be invited to join a private WhatsApp group for your specific cohort. Many participants choose to continue with private sessions from select facilitators—that’s completely up to you. We also plan to launch group coaching soon.
I go to therapy already. Should I bother coming to Renew?
You will find that Renew is impactful because you are completely immersed in a variety of healing modalities. This is very different from talking to a therapist on a weekly, bi-weekly, or once-in-a-while basis.
That said, Renew is not a replacement for therapy, training, or prescribed medication. It should instead be seen as complementary to systems you already have in place.
Do you offer financial assistance?
If you would like to take advantage of our services but are struggling financially, please contact us. We will do what we can to help.
Can men join this retreat?
All of our retreats and programs are for men, women and all genders.
Does my sexual orientation matter?
We welcome women, men and non-binary folks of any sexual orientation.
Is the bootcamp private?
All participants that come to Renew must sign a privacy agreement before coming to the retreat. Participants are not allowed to record any of the sessions or disclose any private details of the bootcamp or participants.
Can I send a friend?
Many people have gifted the Renew retreat to a friend or family member. Each participant must go through the application process which requires a call with a member of the Renew team.
What if I’m an introvert?
While you will be in group sessions, you can choose how much you want to add your voice or not. You will also have breaks where you can enjoy the retreat facilities and surrounding nature.
I’m feeling scared about attending. Is this normal?
For many, the most difficult part of a breakup is not the end of a relationship, but the end of a longstanding pattern. The biggest decision you will make is the commitment to change – and it’s completely normal for you to feel fear about that.
Human beings like what is familiar – even if familiar hurts. The unknown can feel so overwhelming or scary that it can keep us stuck in places that don’t serve us. Know that this is a mental trap, and that growth occurs outside of your comfort zone.
If you’re not getting the results you want with your current approach, then it’s time to try something new.
It’s okay to feel fear, but that fear doesn’t own you. You get to choose.
What is the application process?
We receive a high volume of interest for each retreat, but only a limited number of participants are accepted. To attend, please fill in our waitlist form. We’ll review your application and invite those who are the best fit to move forward to the next step—a call with Renew Breakup Bootcamp founder, Amy Chan.
What is your refund policy?
All sales are final with no exceptions. This is our policy and we will not make any exceptions.
To reiterate – if you get back with your ex, if your schedule changes – we do not offer any refunds under any circumstances. If this policy does not work with you, please do not book the retreat.
How do I get to the retreat?
You are responsible for getting to/from the retreat location. We can provide contacts for private drivers or potential carpool closer to the retreat start date. For Directions you can checkout Hemlock Neversink in the Catskills (Upstate New York)
How much does the retreat cost?
The retreat investment is all inclusive of all meals prepared by a private chef, private lodging in a luxury room and all programming. Early bird starts at 3295 for a private queen room.