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Why A Breakup Hurts So Bad

When a relationship ends, the feelings harken all the way back to our lost childhoods when we were helpless, and dependent.

Interview: What the Red Flags Tell You

Red flags are red flags, regardless of when they show up. Something that would have turned you away initially from a relationship shouldn’t be the thing you ignore just to stay in it.

‘Just Love Yourself’ is Terrible Advice, Do This Instead

Too often we think of loving ourselves as a final destination, as if you flip a switch and suddenly you’re transported to some magical island of enlightenment and relationship bliss. The alternative is feeling ashamed—as if you’re not strong enough, or working hard enough, to get there. This mentality does more damage than it does good.

Sorry I’m Not Sorry

I learned at a very young age to prioritize being pleasant, polite and likable. I was raised in a traditional Chinese household, and the concept of “face”(miàn z) – one’s own sense of self image and prestige in social contexts, was a significant part of our culture. It was normal to “save face” – which was… Continue reading Sorry I’m Not Sorry

7 Practical Steps to Heal After a Breakup

This post is for anyone out there who is feeling the pain of separation. There are things you can do to get back up, process the pain and move from a state of survival to a state of thriving. Here are seven steps to help you during this time.