I’ve been consoling a friend who’s been recently devasted by a breakup. Witnessing her cycle through shock and denial brought back memories of the many times I was in her position. Trying to piece myself together after heartbreak, I recall my friends, despite their best of intentions saying things that just rubbed salt on the wound.… Continue reading The worst thing you can say to someone grieving a breakup
You may not be able to change the events of your history, but you can choose to change the story you attach to those events.
It’s never just about the ex. It’s recycled pain. We recreate the emotional experience of how were wounded as children. If we don’t figure out what the subconscious wounds, patterns and beliefs are, we will just keep repeating the same emotional experience, just with different people.
Maybe we can all take a page out of J.Lo’s book and recognize that when we go through life’s hardships, it’s not the end of the world, it’s merely a plot-twist.
After a breakup, while you logically might know the relationship is over, you body and brain is in a state of shock. It’s used to getting its feel good chemicals like dopamine and oxytocin from the relationship, and now that supply is cut off – and you feel like you’re in withdrawal.
You know the relationship was toxic, but for some reason, you can’t help but miss them, pine over them, and hope for them to change. Or, you might stay in a dead-end relationship because it hurts too much to leave.
The majority of people we date will not be our destination. They were meant to be bridges. Each time we cross a bridge, we have a chance to become a stronger, wiser version of ourselves.
Renew is the world’s first breakup bootcamp and now there’s a Hallmark movie starring Ryan Paevey called Don’t Go Breaking My Heart.
Here you can learn about the reason why I started the world’s first breakup bootcamp in 2016, wrote a book called Breakup Bootcamp published by Harper Collins and the heartbreak that started it all.
When a relationship ends, the feelings harken all the way back to our lost childhoods when we were helpless, and dependent.
Red flags are red flags, regardless of when they show up. Something that would have turned you away initially from a relationship shouldn’t be the thing you ignore just to stay in it.